CHANGE!!

Well, how long do you think does it take for a person to transform in their life? A day? A week? A month? A year? Or just a moment? I don’t know.

Its about a year and half ago, one of my relative had been through visible transformation in his life. From his physical appearance to his routines and even this thought processes and way of living. He had just come from a foreign land, and as a social rule, I went to meet him with my grandmom and maternal uncle. Candidly, someone rightly said him, “Daai, tapai ta dherai dublaunu vaecha!” He replied with such an ease, “ ma hoina, mero sareer matra dublaako?”. Well,  his answer left everyone around speechless. It definitely took some time for people around him to realise that his transformation was not just merely with how he looked. With the series of unfavourable events in his life, one did expect him to change. But at what level, no one knew. At that point I certainly made fun of him back at home. But now as I realise things, if someone would say that to me at this date, I would rather be respectful towards the person for his level of realization.

Ofcourse, the transformation in me might not be as visible as in his case, nor is that to his level or extent. But one does transform slowly and steadily over a period of time. Isn’t it? Afterall, change is as real as the air you breathe. You don’t see or perceive on a daily basis but you do realise it. There were a lot of things which I thought would never happen to me or I thought I would never do this. As we always have created a image of ourselves in our mind and we like to believe that it shall remain the same for as long as we exist. But goddamn life!! Have you ever seen a movie where all the events and characters are as they are at the beginning? Like a movie where nothing changes? If nothing changes, its not a movie, its just a static picture. Maybe that holds true for life, if nothing changes, you are not alive. And I have never felt this more truly than in the last one year of my life. I have come to terms with myself that I shall never at least judge on “why would anyone do that”. You never know, life may push me to a situation where I might be doing the same thing as well. Afterall we are all like the woods in the river. Just going with the flow. If you are in a bank, you may thing why would anyone even go right in middle of the river, But then one day, the flood comes and the flowing wood rests on the bank and the one at the bank starts to float. That is what makes life the way it is.